Friday, 03 April 2009
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Help me understand
How far do you have to push someone before they push back? How strong can you be for a friend in need before your knees buckle? Are we really expected to continue to love and support you if you clearly do not feel the same way?
I have always believed that to help, love, and support those that need it is an act of caring that most of us need to maintain our humanity. That the act; both giving and receiving, is what keeps us all connected. I have never understood the desire some people have to destroy the relationships around them. To be so disrespectful of the people that love and care enough to ask about you, how much lower can you go?
I’ve been hearing for more than a few months that friendship is being there without an agenda. To listen and be present through all the good and bad going on in your life is a good friend. People have been telling me that I’m too nice and that I should have kicked my crappy friends to the curb years ago. I suppose I should have, but that doesn’t feel right. Somehow compromising my standards of friendship because someone else isn’t as considerate would only bring me lower. Why would I want that?
I also don’t understand the need to be so angry and destructive for the sake of it. Anger is a part of life, how you choose to express it is up to you. Be prepared to accept the responsibility and consequences of your actions. There is only so much hate you can spew at a person before even they believe what you’re saying.
Be clear in your desires and words. Are you trying to rid your life of all who once held you dear? For all the spite towards humans, you forget one thing – being human means we don’t have to suffer alone.
My two bits.
Love,
ME
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Comments (2)
The problem lies in balance and lack thereof. When a friend becomes a vampire, a leech, when they are there only when it's convenient for them, then they are not friends at all, and you should let them go. Unless you like wasting your energy on people who don't even give a tenth of the effort back. Unless there aren't other more important things, people, that could use that energy better.
Because friendships, like all relationships, are reciprocal. No, this doesn't mean you should be involved just to expect something in return, but that these things are returned without being asked, bc that's how you're supposed to treat people you love.
And that's why we cull our friendship, our relationships, bc sometimes they just don't work anymore. When they infringe on your own mental and emotional health, when you even have to wonder why you continue that relationship, it's time to move on without them.
*hugs*
"Anger is a part of life, it's up to you how you express it." I really like that quote.
Your emotion resonates between the words. This is very good, your "two bits" were definately worth reading!